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WHY DOES A YOUNG LIFE COMMIT SUICIDE?

An email this morning from one of our most committed partners in Kiducation, Ms Vaidehi Arun (Bangalore) got me thinking, fuming and typing. Here are my thoughts on why our children are committing suicide. And given below this article is Vaidehi’s email. Thanks Vaidehi, lets spread the message to all parents.

WHY DOES A YOUNG LIFE COMMIT SUICIDE?

The recent spate of suicides by young children should not only be the topic of hot discussion and debate but it is time the stakeholders of childhood sat up straight and looked at the real issues and brought about change however small. The stakeholders are parents, school and society. Here society encompasses other family members, friends, the larger community in which children live and the media.

Why are kids committing suicide? Let’s really think of what suicide means, it means taking one’s own life and the methods are always quite ugly, - jumping from a height, hanging by rope, swallowing poison. These are young people who are otherwise very careful about their appearance and how they treat themselves or are treated by others, and these very youngsters reach a stage where they are able to inflict pain and hurt on themselves. Imagine the conditions that must be driving them to take such harsh steps.

The solution is not as simple as blaming the education system or the child. The solution is quite complex because the solution is ‘linked’. It is linked to a lot of factors and we will be able to bring about the solution only when the ‘links’ work together, the links being- schools, colleges, family, parents, media and the child.

And it is in this ‘linking’ that lies the problem as each one gives up expecting the other to bring about the change.

Let us understand what has gone wrong in the ‘links’-       

1. Parents- the fact is that parents today do not have time for their children, however much this sounds ‘unacceptable’ it is a fact, and the only way to deal with facts is to act. Parents need to spend time with children, not only asking them about their exams, or whether they have studied etc. Communicate and allow children to communicate. Parents have to stop focussing on the implied rudeness in children’s conversational styles and understand that sometimes what they think is rudeness may be ‘buried hurt’ coming out strongly. When discussing issues with young children, let them talk, then give solutions or support and when things are calmer then talk to them about ‘how to talk to elders’.
2. Family- the breaking of the joint family system to some extent has led to children feeling lonely, driven them to become loners and ‘keep things to themselves’. To add to this single child families are on the rise, which leaves the child with no one to talk or confide. Connect with your children often in the day and let him connect with family members regularly. Use Sundays to meet grandparents and others.
3. Media- media cannot stop sensationalising incidents of murder, rape, suicide etc, but with the sensationalisation should also come the remedies, when flashed regularly such remedies through media can play an important part. Secondly how we watch television with our children is also important- watching news of suicide and rape and death, while having food is just not done, also after watching such stories whether on a news channel, a movie or a serial it is important that parents talk and discuss with the children about what they saw. This will give children an insight on how the family thinks about such issues and how to react and what not to learn. It also helps solve a lot of questions in the child’s mind about why people do what they do, or behave the way they do. This kind of family education is a must.
   
   
4. Schools and colleges- education in itself is not stressful, if it was the generations gone by would not be surviving successfully. What is stressful is the excessive competition among schools/colleges to be the best which in turn takes the stress to the child. When children do not perform a parent is called to school and blamed for it, ego of the adults’ hurt- they retaliate by taking it out on the child. The child feels both school and parents are against me and feels cornered, now where to run and in a moment of frustration ends his life. Parents need to go ‘soft’ on ‘non performance’ in exams or low marks, parents will have to work to come out of this rat race that lead to ‘death race’.
   
   
5. Childhood- stress does not happen suddenly in the high school or college years, it builds up gradually. It starts as early as the kindergarten years when kids are interviewed and then rejected and then starts a journey of stress, frustration, defeat, inability to cope, hostility, irritability, anger and hopelessness.

v  What we as a society need to do is create better help lines within the family and school

v  Teach adults about emotional development in children so that they are better able to understand and support growing children

v  Reduce stress by reducing senseless competition and expectations

v  Parents and teachers to have basic knowledge of counselling

v  Look out for ‘signs’, they are always there, early intervention can save a life.

v  Take interest in the websites your child visits or now the face book sites, recently there was a group on face book called- ‘we are not scared to commit suicide’, (told to me by a youngster) so be aware of such sites and discuss and debate the pros and cons with young children and young adults.

The world is not such a bad place, so why are children finding it so? Give them love, understanding, a patient ear and we will have a better world. Lets understand that children maybe just 20% of the population but they are 100% of the future (David Tyack), lets take care of the future today.

Swati Popat Vats

President- Podar Education Network- www.podar.org
http://www.swatipopatvatskiducation.blogspot.in
http://www.facebook.com/swatipopatvats

President - Early Childhood Association -India -www.eca-india.org
National Representative India, World Forum Foundation- www.worldforumfoundation.org
Leader Asia - Nature Action Collaborative for Children (NACC)

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Dear Swati mam,

Hope you are doing fine. I guess you are all set to attend our POP in Bangalore. Looking forward for the same. It was a long pending experience I wanted to share with you , if you wish might address the parents on this issue.

We read about various suicidal deaths which has become very rampant in the recent past. I keep pondering about each of these incidents and perplexed about some incidents where children are loosing their precious lives for trivial issues. We earlier used to think it was only exam pressures and results etc., but if you look at a lot of suicides happening across the city it is not even for exam results. The emotional quotient is getting lower in our younger generation. There is strong need for approval from their peer group.

When we were young,  friends were meant to have fun, share study ideas, share homework complexities and enjoy walking into some extra curricular activities together. Contrary to the earlier days, friends now mean everything to our children.  There is now a need for approval from friends in all walks of their life. Right from the way they look in the photos, to what they wear, to how they talk what they think !!! which is very scary. This is further influenced by the sociall / digital media like FACEBOOK.

I do not realise whether what I am explaining further could also be contributing to some extent and has an impact on the above said facts : Most of our parents have the urge to push our children to the next level and next level in everything whether required or not. The following examples assert what I am trying to explain

1. According to the age cut off in Karnataka it is June but most of the schools relax until sept born after which they need to take up the previous level. This exists in all states and countries the dates just differ from place to place. We have parents going to the extent of even bribing and changing the birth certificates in order the child move to the next level.

2. Summer camps : Certainly not meant to achieve short term goals rather allowing a child to explore / express / experience new talents, meet new friends , adapt to new environments. Parents here too,  worry that their children  be placed in the next age group than actually where the child belongs. They worry if a child aged 6yrs is placed in the group 4-6yrs they are rather very happy if the child is placed in 7-8yrs. Isn't all this an indirect pressure for the child to grow up too soon??

3. I would like to share couple of experiences in the day care recently. I had a father who was transferred from Pune to Bangalore ( child is not from PODAR ) he had come to select a AFTER SCHOOL DAY CARE as both parents go to work. I was casually chatting with him when I asked him where is the child going to join for regular schooling when he mentioned he has selected three schools but the final choice is going to be made by his son who is 7yrs old !!! I asked him is he comfortable in asking the child to make a choice of the school he said " My son has a mind of his own mam, so I better ask him" , but soon did not forget to add " I am pretty sure you must have heard this from a lot of parents , but I truly believe my son is matured enough to make a choice". To my surprise when this child joined our ASDC (after school day care) team I realised he was so matured he just could not make any friends in his peer group but rather choose to sit with me or some senior teachers and chat. ( he was a very nice kid) but had lost the 'child in him' to be with his peer group. He was more a mini adult !! I have a lot of such incidents to share with you may be when I meet you in person but I am wondering are we doing it right?? Why are we in a haste to push them to adulthood ?

Why are the parents trying to push young children to attain so much maturity that they loose their childhood?

Are these parents ready to handle the adult in him as he/she grows up?

Is this having an impact on the balance of the child's mind ?

These were few things just wanted to share so you can address them in your talk with parents.

Looking forward to see you soon.

Warm regards,

Vaidehi arun

'Why is it dangerous to feed children as they watch TV'.

(DNA - Front page - 25th April, 2012)
Click on the image attached below or click on the link http://www.dnaindia.com/india/report_parents-too-busy-to-talk-to-their-kids-finds-study_1680315, to read more.

Educationists need to rally together and forge ahead for the RTE Act to be implemented successfully.

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Mumbai Mirror epaper - 13th Apr 2012, Page 22

Desperately Crying To Be Heard In The Budget

As India celebrates yet another budget, a small section of this country, small maybe but very important, has been left out once again. After all how many people can a government please? The budget is well defined and has allocated enough to all concerned, maybe we in the early childhood community are not vocal enough about our needs or advocate enough to the government about the support that we require.

An all India appeal to all the ministers, members of parliament and all in the government - we  appeal to you to support more initiatives for early childhood education as they are the future- the future voters, the future citizens and the future youth.  

Through the little ones you connect with the parents, as ‘pester power’ works. This was proved when we used pester power this election and asked all our little babies to check for the ‘black dot’ on their parents fingers. They not only checked it on their parent’s fingers but they went a step ahead and harassed the life out of every adult they came across to get that black dot!  The adults that voted this year are adults that grew up in quality early childhood programs and are now functioning as effective citizens.  Without the kind of start we helped them obtain, they might not have cared who got elected.    

Early childhood education deserves its rightful place of respect in the community both in the country and city and your support to this initiative will help us bring about awareness both about the teaching profession and the right respect among parents and future teachers.

The budget must provide not only for nutrition - the ICDS scheme of the government has got some barely two or three percent more than last year and that also will only cover the nutrition needs of the children, then what about the other needs? The early years are the most important, we need to sanction money for parent education, teacher education, teacher training, setting up crèches for all strata of working women, educating women about pregnancy and parenting. What about all this?

We want what the American President gave America; we want this for India and early childhood education in India. As new president, Barack Obama said in his first address to the nation: “It will be the goal of this administration to ensure that every child has access to a complete and competitive education from the day they are born to the day they begin a career. Already, we have made an historic investment in education through the economic recovery plan. We have dramatically expanded early childhood education and will continue to improve its quality, because we know that the most formative learning comes in those first years of life.”

In our culture when a family shares its resources among the family members, first they think about the children and allocate resources for them. But the budget tends to ignore this very cultural practise; let’s have a budget that will allocate more funds to the future of this country.

I would like to end by quoting brilliant educator Ivan Welton Fitzwater. When asked, this well known icon had said, “I am a teacher! What I do and say are being absorbed by young minds who will echo these images across the ages. My lessons will be immortal, affecting people yet unborn, people I will never see or know. The future of the world is in my classroom today, a future with the potential for good or bad. The pliable minds of tomorrow's leaders will be molded either artistically or grotesquely by what I do.

Several future presidents are learning from me today; so are the great writers of the next decades, and so are all the so-called ordinary people who will make the decisions in a democracy. I must never forget these same young people could be the thieves or murderers of the future.

Only a teacher? Thank God I have a calling to the greatest profession of all! I must be vigilant every day lest I lose one fragile opportunity to improve tomorrow.”

So by allocating more in the budget for the early years the government will just be doing its bit for future members of parliament and ministers. Think about it.

 Friends, let’s think of ways to involve our policy makers more in early childhood education initiatives: Any ideas?

Fool’s Gold or Tools of the mind? The technology twist...

Kids are fascinated with all kinds of technology not only because it fulfills their need for 'exploring' but also fulfills their need for 'independent exploring'. This is where we adults lose touch with them, we are unable to share their enthusiasm for this kind of quick learning and hence are unable to talk about, share, discuss/debate  the uses or abuses of technology with them, and end up nagging, lecturing them on the abuses which drives them away deeper into their technological cocoon.

We adults accept and celebrate all technological advances like face book, twitter, blogs, laptops, ipads and iphones in our daily work; we claim it has brought the world closer and in touch. But somehow when it comes to the school or the teacher and child using it, we have our many, many reservations.

Many may say that these are 'adult' technologies and hence not for kids. If parents are really worried about the tech gadgets leading their kids astray, then lets recollect it is parents who first give the child the mobile phone in their hand when they want to 'keep the preschooler busy', or keep the television on while feeding the baby or 'to stay in touch while the parents were working', or to keep track of where the child was. It was the parents who gave video games to the kids may be as guilt or materialistic parenting.

Brain research gives some very important points about why kids and adolescents find technology so 'addictive', two simple facts the 'eye and the hand need each other' ( and not to just boringly copy from the blackboard)  and that is what you will notice has worked for project based schools, learn while doing etc Another simple fact is R.A.D learning (R= reticular activating system, which means the more visual stimuli that the brain gets, the more it can play attention.  A= amygdala's filter, technology tends to keep children stress free and involved and so the amygdala in the brain is not stressed and so no 'flight or fight' reaction needed.  D= dopamine, happy chemicals that mean more focus and attention). If we equip today's teachers with brain research and how to implement it in their classrooms you will have a successful and empowered teacher who knows when to use the blackboard, the smart board, books, field trips, digital photos and Google maps, live streaming  videos and  'teacher presence'. 

Why do we always want to keep the teacher handcuffed to the age old traditional formats of teaching and learning in the class? Why does all the 'teaching' have to be by the teacher? Traditionally it has always been that teachers write on the board-children copy, teachers help kids unravel the textbook, teachers will operate the smart board-kids to sit back and look at it in awe. Now suddenly gadgets like an ipad has put both teacher and child on the same side. The child/student can explore and jump ahead of the teacher and this will really bring a unique transformation to the teacher student relationship, where teachers have to stop teaching and start collaborating, learning and discussing with students. Suddenly the limits of the textbook and blackboard are no more, children can see, visualize, create, explore and learn, after all academic success requires focused attention, listening, persistence and innovation so what's the difference if the teacher achieved it with the blackboard/textbook or the computer/ipad?

Technology is here to stay and it will enter our classrooms and our homes, what we need to understand is that, we should not be those who have blind "faith in technology to solve the problems of education", and nor should we have "blind faith that technology spoils kids". As given in the research report, Reply To Fools Gold, 'there is a middle path, a path that needs schools to train teachers and parents in understanding the healthy use of technology and a path that understands that the teacher can never be replaced and it's time to stop feeling so insecure that any innovation in the classroom will result in the teacher being replaced'.

This middle path as experts say, is about making kids netizens, practice netiquette and technology literacy. Yes, kids idolize the net, and that is why we need to educate them about technology as there are far too many cases of students saying, "It's on the Internet. It must right", 'that should be the goal, to enable children to develop their own 'creative and critical capacities in relating to technology, not to train them to be machine operators or machine slaves'.  Children today are overawed by the workings of sophisticated hardware and software. Basic education and understanding of these technologies will help to counteract the awe and help them realize that any technology gadget still needs the human brain to make sense of it all.    
 
Teenagers are die hard users of electronic media; they are busy on their computers, cell phones, and ipads.  Experts (in programs like futureofchildren.org) propose 'meeting youth where they are-riding the airwaves-with positive messages that compete with and offer attractive alternatives to the negative, unhealthful, or illegal messages they are exposed to every minute'.
 
What are we afraid of? Early sexual activity, drugs, violence? Then it's time for parents to speak up, get in touch with research and face the reality that technology is here to stay and so what is required is a change in parenting styles, in educating ourselves and our children. We need to stop trying to keep our children away from it and start educating our children about it. And yes about cyber crime and plagiarism, it happened without technology too and it will happen now, if moral values in society are lacking.   It's time to change, change our 'ways of looking at technology' rather than 'thrashing technology'.

 I would like to quote from research and suggest that Schools adopting technology in their classrooms should understand that-
      i. It should support meaningful, "whole" development and learning for Children. When technology contributes to development, it should be used. When it does not, it should not be used.(ref-Reply To Fools Gold)
     ii. Technology can help children with disabilities.
    iii. Alan Hedge, professor of ergonomics at Cornell University, recommends that children take a break from computer work every 20 minutes and spend no more than about 45 minutes in any hour at a screen.
    iv. There is a need for human connection which should never be replaced.
 
Remember you still need that human finger and brain to operate technology!

Why is teaching not an ‘Attractive Profession’?

Why was teaching attractive?

1. A tension free environment, most parents did not like their daughters working in an office hence school was a safe and honourable place.
2. Teaching was considered a noble profession and had respect and reverence and was almost considered as social service.
3. You worked only a few hours a day and hence were able to look after your home.
4. You had all the holidays, summer, Diwali, winter, bank holidays and were paid for it too.
5. You associated with children and hence your happiness quotient was always doubled in your interactions with them.

Then what happened to this utopia?

1. Other more lucrative professions came into place.
2. Society changed its perception about allowing girls to work in other professions too.
3. Even a doctor can work part time and enjoy holidays.
4. Society started loosing respect for teachers as tuition racket and teachers accepting gifts rackets increased.
5. Children became more and more difficult to handle and there was no happiness only stress.

Who is to be blamed for this?

No one and everyone! If teachers want to gain back respect and good salaries then somewhere two things need to be done, one at the educational level and one at the national budgetary level.

Respect, recognition and monetary benefits are the issues out here, of which the last one is an issue even abroad for teachers and they tackle it by involving politicians and the government in raising the standards and bars, see how Barack Obama has already voiced his support for early childhood and elementary school policies, Canada has recently passed an education bill for the same. But what does India do? In any of the politician’s speeches do they make any strategic commitments about policy changes? No. we have the sarva siksha abhiyan, crores are kept aside for it, but where does the money go? To publishing houses to print books and fancy materials, but yet the abhiyan does not get teachers. Why? Because they have not earmarked good money for it.

What about the educational qualifications angle?

All professional courses are for at least 3 years or more after graduation. What about teaching? It is just for a year. Yes, B.ed (bachelor in education is just for a year!!!! whereas abroad it is a 3 to 4 year if not 5 year program. how can you train quality teachers in a year? how much of internship are these teachers getting? Very little. Almost as good as naught and when they pass out they do not know the science of teaching to implement in practice? And that is why you have teachers beating, threatening, abusing children. You have teachers who grumble about large numbers in the class, but sit through their lesson and you will feel like tearing your hair, as they are so dull and boring.

PRE PRIMARY IS EVEN WORSE- Now you have courses that run for 3 months, 6 months, great brands are running them and students get hoodwinked, they feel they can get jobs earlier, not realising that when you do a course like this you will get a job but you will not get the right salary and further because you have incomplete qualifications you will be a failure as a teacher.

There are plenty of women and men out there who still want to come back to teaching but things need to change. Schools need to understand that staff attrition which is killing their quality and affecting children adversely too will only stop if you raise the bar of your salaries. And educational department needs to look into the qualifications, raise the bar of the teaching profession, and change the redundant curriculum.

Are teachers also to be blamed where growth is concerned?

There is plenty of growth if one looks creatively and again here the education department needs to put its foot down. There are so many publications, workbooks etc in the market that need educational consultants, but are designed by novices, or a secondary teacher is designing primary material so on. If teachers used their talent they can link up with design houses whether it is c.d roms, educational channels they need consultants, have teachers looked at this?

It is definite growth. but here again first teachers need to work on their knowledge base of the science of teaching, half the worksheets we collected from various ‘top’ schools in Mumbai and Delhi had basic reading and writing errors and these were being used by the school.

Even the Cambridge published book on reading and spelling has a major error- all the words are printed in all capitals. Think about it, the child has to convert all capitals into small in his mind and then remember it!!!!!!

Do teachers know the reasoning behind why they use a four line book to teach children to write when ultimately the child will have to use a single line book? Won’t the child get less confused with a three line book where the middle dotted line will disappear over time and the child is then easily writing on a single line?

Erik Erickson, Kohlberg are theories that all teachers must understand to be able to practice behaviour management, do they even know these names after doing B.ed or an Ecced?

Do they know the connection between physical-motor and cognitive development? If they did they would not insist that children fold their hands and put their fingers on their lips when the teacher is teaching.

Till teachers do not understand their teaching and the science behind it teachers will not get any growth. Just like a doctor will never grow if he cannot diagnose his patients if he cannot understand and cure them.

New Zealand has one of the best practices to ensure that all professionals are up to the mark and keeping in touch with latest research in their field, so here all teachers and doctors have to give an exam every year and get their new qualifications. Now that’s called quality.

How many of our teachers read about their profession or subject?

Friends lets change the way the world looks at teachers, let’s bring respect back to the profession. Any suggestions?