Brings to your mind, chocolates, flowers and hugs and lots of cute cards that one can gift to a mother.
And with its celebration comes the debate; is one day a year enough for mothers? well, I would look at it like this, 364 days of for the mother so hug her on those days and on this special day go out of your way and pamper her, thank her and make her feel special.
So all you yummy mummies out there do remember that is your mother’s day too, which means have you wished your mother? Have you pampered her?
So one of the best ideas for mothers’ day is go out and have fun with your mother, pamper her, and get pampered, thank her and get thanked and have a ball.
One of the first gifts that you need to give yourself on mother day is throw away your guilt. yes, most mummies are guilty, guilty of not spending enough time with their kids, guilty of late nights at the office, guilty of leaving the kids at the day care etc. so today on your special day, remove and throw away this ‘guilt’ it is not needed and because of the guilt you end up following incorrect parenting practises, like buying too many toys or giving your child too many sweets, chlorates etc.
This mother’s day make a promise to your self that you will first look after your needs, your emotions as a happy mother can then bring up happy children.
So this mother’s day to be a happy mother do what is given in the acronym below-
M- My special needs –
Please do not pout and fret and fume that no one is looking after me, we are mothers, we take care of the world and in this world we are included, so let’s take care of ourselves. Remember charity begins at home.
O- Other mums will not worry me -
yes, please don’t let other moms and what they do worry you, because then you are constantly comparing yourself to other moms and finding yourself falling short , you are then resorting to guilt trip parenting. So stop comparing today. You are doing the best you can.
T- Time will be spent on all equally -
Yes, please spend time on your husband and yourself, so do have quality time that you are spending with your husband where you are not discussing kids, just good old romantic time. Necessary. So make time for it, it will help you look happier, younger and more energetic.
H- Help is sometimes good and required-
just because your mom did it all on her own , does not mean you have to be the same, maybe being a working woman is not possible to juggle and do all that your mom was doing, so hire some help, its o.k., it does not make you a bad mom!
E- easy on the guilt -
In fact do away with it completely, you don’t need it, it just adding wrinkles to yEur face and tension lines on the forehead. So stop feeling guilty start feeling good about yourself and your family today.
R- Rest -
Yes it is important. and you will ask, ‘how do we rest?’ well, the first thing is to delegate your tasks, sometimes husbands are willing to share your responsibility but you are not giving it to them, because of foolish reasons like-‘he will not clean up’, ‘my child does not stay with him’ etc. Rest is a need, so do not postpone it, find time and ways to rest.
Put together all of the above and you get a beautiful word- M.O.T.H.E.R.
So happy mother day and ask yourself have I been a mother today? And look at the points given to find your answer.